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FOMO and the people around you

Watching other people make money is harder than losing your own. The specific social pressures in Indian investing, and how to defuse them.

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Every framework in this curriculum assumes you are making decisions alone and rationally. You are not. You are making them while a colleague describes the smallcap that tripled, while a relative asks why you are not in the stock everyone is discussing, and while your feed shows only winners.

The reporting is systematically biased

People announce wins and stay silent about losses. Nobody posts about the position they held for two years that went nowhere, or the one they quietly exited at a 45% loss. What you observe is not a sample of outcomes — it is a sample of the outcomes people chose to mention.

What you hear
  • “I made 3× on that smallcap.”
  • “I got allotment and it listed at +70%.”
  • “I bought at the bottom in March.”
  • Screenshots of a single position, cropped.
What you do not hear
  • The size of the position — often tiny.
  • The four others from the same set that halved.
  • That they sold most of it far earlier.
  • Their actual portfolio XIRR, which nobody calculates.

What FOMO actually makes you do

  1. 1
    Buy after the move

    By the time something is being discussed at lunch, the easy money has been made. You are arriving as the people who arrived early look for an exit.

  2. 2
    Buy larger than your rules allow

    Because a normal position would not "make a difference" against the returns you have been hearing about.

  3. 3
    Abandon your process

    No thesis, no stop, no sizing calculation — those all belonged to the boring approach that was underperforming.

  4. 4
    Hold too long afterwards

    Exiting means admitting to the same people that it did not work, so the loss aversion is now social as well as financial.

◆ Your call

The office conversation

Three colleagues have made 80–140% in the last eight months on smallcaps. Your diversified portfolio is up 16%. At lunch they discuss the next one, and one of them says the window is closing. You have a written process that would not select this stock. What do you do?

Simple bhasha mein
WhatsApp group ka daanv

Group mein sab apna profit screenshot daal rahe hain. Kisi ne nuksaan wala screenshot bheja? Kabhi nahi. Aap ek aisa sample dekh rahe ho jisme sirf jeetne wale bolte hain. Us adhoori tasveer ke bharose paisa lagana FOMO ka poora khel hai.

What to remember
  • Relative position affects people more than absolute position — this is well documented.
  • What you hear is a sample of what people chose to mention, not of outcomes.
  • FOMO makes you buy late, buy larger, abandon process, and hold too long afterwards.
  • A 24-hour rule defeats most of it, because urgency is the common ingredient.
  • Not discussing individual positions removes the social cost of selling them.
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Common questions

Short, direct answers to what people ask about this topic.

fomo meaning in stock market
FOMO in the market is the fear of missing out on a move other people appear to be profiting from, and it reliably produces four behaviours: buying after the move, buying larger than your rules allow, dropping your process, and then holding too long because exiting means admitting it to the people you heard it from. What triggers it is social observation rather than anything about the company. The common ingredient is urgency, which is why a built-in delay defuses most of it.
the discomfort of a good return once you learn someone else did better is known as
Relative deprivation — the well-documented finding that people are affected more by their position relative to others than by their absolute position. A 14% return feels fine until a colleague mentions 60%, at which point nothing about your finances has changed but the feeling has. That feeling is what drives the next decision, which is why the effect matters financially and not only emotionally.
how do I stop buying stocks just because everyone around me is
Two defences work because they need no willpower at the moment of temptation: a fixed 24-hour gap between hearing about something and being allowed to buy it, and simply not discussing your individual positions with anyone. Almost nothing worth owning disappears in a day, so the delay costs very little and removes the urgency the impulse depends on. If nobody knows what you hold, there is no social cost to selling it and no social pressure to buy.
are whatsapp and telegram stock tip groups worth following
Everyone in a tip group already owns the stock being discussed, which gives every member an incentive to talk it up and none at all to mention what went wrong. Anyone who provides investment advice or research recommendations for consideration in India has to be registered with SEBI, and most such groups are run by people who are not. Treat what circulates in them as marketing from existing holders, not as analysis.
why does everyone only ever talk about their winning trades
Because people announce wins and stay quiet about losses, so what you observe is not a sample of outcomes — it is a sample of the outcomes people chose to mention. Nobody posts the position that went nowhere for two years or the one quietly exited at a 45% loss, and a cropped screenshot of a single holding hides both the position size and the four from the same batch that halved. This is survivorship bias operating on your social circle, and it makes the achievable return look far higher than it is.